What am I Feeling Self Help Guide
What am I feeling?
Despite beliefs that some categories of feelings are ‘good’ or ‘bad’, all emotions and feelings are relevant and are present for us to process to help us to heal.
If we are able to tolerate and experience a range of emotions, you will be able to live life more fully, without being regularly being overwhelmed.
You might be ready to start taking some risks with allowing yourself to really notice, and maybe even sit with what you are feeling.
This may feel extremely challenging, because, it can initially feel like things are getting worse. Feelings that have been suppressed or ignored for a long time start surfacing to be acknowledged and experienced.
This is why it is recommended to begin therapy to deal with the abuse once you have a ‘solid enough base’, so emerging feelings and emotions will not be overwhelming for you.
As you gradually get used to sitting with your feelings , you begin to create a greater tolerance for them and you may slowly begin to realise you can cope with them.
Over time, as these feelings are acknowledged, they will begin to lessen and feel less scary.
Getting to know your feelings and emotions can gradually help you make decisions about whether to ‘stay’ present with these feelings.
Help to get to know your emotions;
• Pay attention to your body. This includes your heart rate, breathing, shaking, trembling, sweating , hairs standing up on back on neck, muscle tension, aches and pains. All of these physiological responses are clues as to what is going on emotionally.
• Start with identifying details – Is my heart rate fast or slow? Is my breathing deep or shallow? Does my face feel hot or cool?
• Ask yourself – Is it OK for me to feel this? And then ask yourself Why?/Why Not?
• Consider if there are any social judgements around your feeling like this? Consider where and with whom it might be safe to express this feeling without being negatively judged.