Male Survivors Services
We recognise that sexual violence and domestic violence occurs when one person assumes power and control over another; with no regard for the effect of their actions. If people are given the information and support to take control over their lives we believe their self-esteem and confidence can be increased to make positive changes in their lives. KCRASAC recognises the similarities of men experiencing sexual violence and domestic abuse; also the difference of these experiences in relation to female survivors.
Support for males
We offer the same support services to male survivors as we do women. We recognise the importance of the social and psychological impact of their experiences as men; and how this compounds their reluctance to disclose. Therefore we are committed to continuing to provide access to support for male survivors.
Survivors UK define sexual violence perpetrated against a male as: “any unwanted or non-consensual sexual act performed against a man or a boy at any time in his life.” They note the same impact on men as for woman and identify some of these as: emotional distress, shock, disbelief, denial, shame, embarrassment, guilt and depression. KCRASAC recognises that there are myths around male sexual violence which add another dimension to the exclusion and isolation men (boys) feel if they have been sexually abused.
Domestic Abuse / Violence and Men
Domestic abuse takes place within an intimate relationship and forms a pattern of bullying and controlling behaviour. Men can experience domestic violence and the forms this takes which includes; emotional abuse, threats, intimidation, physical abuse, sexual abuse and financial abuse.
Myths and Realities
Myth: The law only protects women who have experienced domestic violence; but does not protect men
Reality: Men and women have the same rights to protection from domestic abuse.
Myth: Only gay men sexually assault other men
Reality: Sexual assault is about power and control; and not dependant upon a persons’ sexual orientation
Myth: Sexual physical responses mean that survivors consent or desire the abuse
Reality: The sexual physical response elicited by sexual violence does not imply consent or desire; however this is a powerful tool used by perpetrators to discourage disclosure
Myth: Men who experience abuse are weak and not “real” men
Reality: They had no choice in the abuse. It is important to remember that 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused before age 18, and that those boys can grow up to be strong, powerful, courageous and healthy men.
Myth: Men can’t be sexually assaulted
Reality: Any man or boy can be sexually assaulted regardless of age, size, class or sexual orientation
Myth: Men cannot be sexually abused by women.
Reality: Men can be abused by women. Due to societies views on women abusing men the abuse may be trivialised and minimised.